grown up. when did that happen?

Monday, November 10, 2008 / Comments (2) / by elizabeth

at what point did you consider yourself a grown up?

- when you moved out of your parents house?
- when you got married?
- when you had children of your own?
- when you became completely financially independent?

i know people who are one or all of the above but are still some of the most immature not grown up people i know. i’m not married, don’t have children, and don’t know that i’ll ever be completely financially independent (not because i can’t support myself, but because my parents take great joy in helping me), but i think i started feeling grown up when i realized i was more concerned with the well being of my parents than i was the well being of myself.

the thing that sucks about caring about their emotional, physical, and spiritual health is the way it feels when they’re not doing well. then you begin to feel a little like a parent yourself when you realize you would do anything – anything – to help them, to take their pain away, to make it better.

if caring for my parents is this hard, i can’t imagine how it’s going to feel to have children.

2 comments:

joy @ November 10, 2008 at 7:09 PM

i decided last week that when i turn 23, i have to be a grown up. 23 sounds too old to still be making stupid, childish decisions and mistakes.

and for the record, moving out of my parents house didn't make me a grown up. being completely financially independent (by force) didn't make me grown up. marriage as i see it right now is still optional, so i know that wouldn't help, and i don't want children of my own. so who knows what it is that makes you finally feel like a grown up. maybe it depends on the person. fighting your own battles? speaking for yourself? creating a stable environment for yourself? all important factors, and all things i'm working on as we speak. so maybe soon for me. maybe when i turn 23 :)

olivia @ November 11, 2008 at 12:09 AM

i felt like a grown up when my paychecks consisted of way more than
$150; when i was able to budget said paychecks; and when i began loving, laughing with, being adored by, and caring for 150 15 and 16 year olds.